I sat on my couch beyond discouraged, with negative thoughts flooding my mind. You’re lazy… You are going to be such an embarrassment… You’re not good enough.
Let me explain. This month, I decided that it was time for me to start working out. For about a year my only form of exercise has been walking and I thought that it was the time to start doing something a little more intense. So about two weeks ago I hopped online and purchased a workout DVD and got to work on what I thought was just the next step for me: “actually” working out and by “actually” working out I mean doing a weight lifting, intense cardio type of workout.
The first day I popped in the DVD and did my first workout. It was hard! It had me sweating a lot and even though I had to take a break in the middle I still ended up finishing my entire workout. On the second day, the same thing happened: I popped in the DVD, sweated my behind off, had to take a break in the middle, but still ended up finishing the second workout too! I hated the workout… and I do mean hated it! From the time that I thought about putting in the DVD to the moment the dang thing was over!
On the third day, I turned the DVD on and immediately turned it right back off. I decided that I really didn’t want to do the workout. I just got absolutely no enjoyment out of it… not even a little bit. I knew that it wasn’t right for me. As soon as I turned off the DVD I immediately started having thoughts like: “you’re so lazy… you can’t even get through this… you’re going to be such an embarrassment because you said that you were going to do this.” These thoughts were really starting to mess with my mind and I was starting to get really down. I sat on that couch and started letting internal negative thoughts, that were not justifiable at all, get the best of me.
Have you ever been in a situation like this where negative thoughts seem to flood your mind all at once and they really start to bring you down? I feel like we have all been there before. What I realized is it’s not that we have the thoughts that bring us down… it’s how we choose to react to them that matters. Negative internal thoughts can steal our joy and confidence if we let them, but I found that it doesn’t have to be that way. I have come up with 4 things that are helpful when I’m in a situation where negative thoughts are flooding my mind and I want to get rid of them. I wanted to share these things with you because I truly believe that they can help you not only throughout your weight loss journey but throughout life’s struggles as well.
4 Tips For Getting Rid Of Negative Thoughts About Yourself
#1 Call Out The Thought For What It Is
It’s important to call out the negative thought for what it is… a lie. That day on the couch when I started to feel really bad and knew that I did not want to do the workout the negative thoughts that came were lies. Bold-faced lies! So I called them out for what they were.
When I heard: you’re lazy, I responded… No, I’m not lazy! When I heard: You’re going to be such an embarrassment because you didn’t finish something you said you would…I responded … No, I’m not going to be an embarrassment!
#2 Call Out The Truth
After calling out the thought for what it is the second most important thing is to call out the truth. When I heard: You’re lazy! The truth that I called out was: I walk almost every day in my neighborhood and I have lost close to 40 pounds. When I heard: You’re going to be such an embarrassment because you didn’t finish something that you said that you would! The truth I called out was: I exercise for myself and no one else. This way of exercise is not for me right now and there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Calling out the truth allows us to recognize and acknowledge what we have already accomplished which helps to immediately put us in a different headspace because we are able to focus on the positives and that helps our minds shift from negative thoughts to positive ones.
#3 Know That You Are Good Enough
It’s important to know that you are good enough and believe it with full conviction! I find that in situations where negative thoughts are flooding your mind, it can be easy to feel discouraged, but just knowing that you are good enough just the way you are helps a lot. It’s important not to feed into the thoughts of you are not good enough, because you are!
#4 Determine Your Next Best Logical Step
When we are in a situation where we are faced with negative thoughts because we didn’t finish something, there is a goal that we didn’t meet or even mistakes that we have made in the past, we should determine what our next best logical step will be.
In my situation with not continuing with the workout DVD like I had planned, my next best logical step is to add on just a little more to what I am already doing. I will continue to go on my daily walks like normal. I am also planning on starting to do crunches at home, by starting with 10 per night and working my way up from there.
Negative internal thoughts can cause us to question who we are, what we are capable of, and ruin our self-confidence if we let them. We all have these thoughts at one time or another, no matter how mature we are or how far along we are in life. The most important thing is not that we will have them, but how we will deal with them when they come. I hope these tips help you out as much as they continue to help me.
WEIGHT LOSS NUMBERS
Starting Weight January 2018: 253
Ending Weight January 2019: 215.6
Week 19 Weigh-In (February 6, 2019): 216.4
Week 20 Weigh-In (February 13, 2019): 217.6
Week 21 Weigh-In (February 20, 2019): 216.2
Week 22 Weigh-In (February 27, 2019): 216.6
Weight Lost Since Last Month: +1 lb
Total Weight Lost Overall: -36.4 lbs
If you missed the last weigh-in that I posted check out the post What To Do If You Fear That Losing 100 Pounds Will Take Too Long: Weigh-In Wednesday Week 18 if you want to catch up!
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