Why feeling sorry for yourself makes things worse: Weigh-In Wednesday Week 4

Why feeling sorry for yourself makes things worse: Weigh-In Wednesday Week 4

Ever had one of those weeks?” You know those weeks where things just don’t go according to plan. Those weeks where you get that woe is me attitude and all you can do is focus on the things that are going wrong?

I learned this week that feeling sorry for myself when things don’t go like I planned just does not help, although it tends to be the easiest thing to do in the moment. I heard somewhere a long time ago that “what we focus on magnifies” and I found out this week just how true that statement is. I don’t know if I mentioned it, but I have knees that are not the best. Since I was a child my knees would pop out of their sockets every now and then. It was choked up to genetics seeing as though the same thing happens to my mom, grandma, and all but one of my sisters.

Long story short, I just believed that because it was genetics that nothing could be done (silly me!). Well fast forward to last year… my knee popped out of its socket, but THAT time I really injured myself.

My doctor recommended surgery, but he could not guarantee that it would fix the problem, so I have opted not to have the surgery. Since then about once a month I get a flare up. Sometimes it lasts for a day or two, sometimes a week. When this happens, I have to be extremely careful because my knees are really unstable at that point. This past week I had a flare-up in my right knee and I have not been able to exercise, which made me really upset because I set a goal to walk 10,000 steps each day.

And it begins…

I started to feel sorry for myself. I started to complain. Some of the many complaints went like this:

“I’m not trying to be lazy anymore… I actually want to exercise.”

“I hate when this happens…ugh.”

Then I weighed in this week and gained .8 pounds then things started to go like this…

“All I want to do is be able to exercise”

“I need to exercise… and I just can’t.”

What I realized during self-reflection that changed everything…

Complaining did absolutely nothing for me. It did not change my situation. I still had a knee that was bothering me. I still could not go out for my walks. END. OF. STORY. Because I was so focused on what I could not do, I lost sight of all the things that I could do. I’ll be completely honest… I JUST realized this today after reflecting over the last week for this post.

Going forward…

Although my knee is still bothering me, I am choosing to fix my focus on positive things instead though. It’s not that I cannot exercise at all… It’s just not advantageous for me to do exercises where I am constantly on my knee. I can find alternatives though. Some alternatives that I will be using are:

  • Bicycling on the floor
  • Sit-ups
  • Following along to YouTube videos that show at home floor exercises

I missed out on these alternatives early on, simply because I could not see the bigger picture

I wanted to tell you about this so that maybe it can help to give you some perspective when you are having a rough day… or even a rough week. I learned that it is so important not to focus on what can’t be done or what is happening to us…it’s better to focus on what we can do or how we can change the situation.


Have you ever had a situation like this? How did you overcome it? I would love to hear how you tackle times like this! Connect with me and let me know! I hope you have a great rest of your week. I’ll talk to you later!



Starting Weight in January: 253

Week 1 Weigh-In: 230.0

Week 2 Weigh-In: 227.6

Week 3 Weigh-In: 226.2

Week 4 Weigh-In: 227.0

Weight Lost this week: +.8 lbs 

Total Weight Lost Since January: -26 lbs

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